Getting married is one thing. Staying married is another. Check out what our friendly neighbourhood search engine threw up when fed the word “marriage” into its search box:
- Marriage made in heaven;
- Marriage made in hell;
- Marriage of convenience;
- Marriage of inconvenience (true! – click here);
- Marriage made in Hollywood;
- Marriage with a liar;
- Marriage at a young age;
- Marriage and divorce,
and just about another zillion variations from Google on the one same word: “marriage”. No easy business this marriage thing. Ask my wife and she’ll probably give you some startling insights into our wedded life! We’re still a work in progress … or digress as the case may be!
All of which, makes this old tune by Billy Joel even more significant:
Just the Way You Are
Don’t go changing, to try and please me
You never let me down before
Don’t imagine you’re too familiar
And I don’t see you anymore
I wouldn’t leave you in times of trouble
We never could have come this far
I took the good times, I’ll take the bad times
I’ll take you just the way you are
Don’t go trying some new fashion
Don’t change the color of your hair
You always have my unspoken passion
Although I might not seem to care
I don’t want clever conversation
I never want to work that hard
I just want someone that I can talk to
I want you just the way you are.
I need to know that you will always be
The same old someone that I knew
What will it take till you believe in me
The way that I believe in you.
I said I love you and that’s forever
And this I promise from the heart
I could not love you any better
I love you just the way you are.
Listening to the song now – 30 years after it first hit the charts, throws a different light on the depth of its lyrics. Put another way, these words remind me of my own promises of marriage to my wife. It’s kind of a renewal of vows put into a song, like how it goes here:
I wouldn’t leave you in times of trouble
We never could have come this far
I took the good times, I’ll take the bad times, I’ll take you just the way you are
And, I’d like to believe those Google statistics will change a bit if we all took a step back, look at what drew us to our spouses in the first place and believed in each other again.